It’s inevitable. At some point in owning your dance studio a student is going to want to part ways and stop dancing. If you’re lucky, it may happen only a handful of times over the course of your career, but the reality is, it’s going to happen. To add insult to injury, it’s sometimes the dancers that we can’t fathom losing because their presence and talent in class inspire us and make us better at what we do. But, many times, it is.
So what do we do when we get that inevitable memo that a parent and student want to meet with us? While our insides might be stirring with thoughts of how we will make things work, change dances, formations, competition routines, etc. the priority needs to start with concerning yourself with the welfare of this dancer and understanding the mindset they are in for making this big decision. It’s also important to understand how they came to the decision, the reasoning behind it and how you can support it going forward so they are the happiest individual they can be.
A lot of times, this sudden revelation occurs with dancers right around the beginning of high school. For a number of reasons including, settling into the high school experience, increased workload, difficulty with time management, emotional issues at home, overextending themselves with other commitments, wanting to explore new avenues and spending more time with friends in their new environment. While this rite of passage is undoubtedly valid, dropping dance all together is not necessarily the answer either.
When you are confronted with this meeting of student and parent, ask how long a student has been feeling this way, whether or not they have thought about what they would be giving up and if they’ve thought about how it will affect their day to day life. Remember, while these questions may seem like tough-love so they really think about their pending decision, it’s also not OK to approach the dancer with a combative or defensive demeanor. Regardless of how you’re feeling, the main priority is always the dancer’s well-being.
A lot of times you will also find that the parents are the ones to quickly want to pull their kids out of dance because they want to comply with a child’s instant gratification of feeling overwhelmed, too much on their plate, etc. Rather than working with their child to honor their dance commitments or thinking of alternatives like cutting back classes, numbers they are in, coming up with ways to time manage better in terms of scheduling and working with the studio so the dancer can maintain their training to even a lesser degree, a lot of times for them it’s all or nothing. This isn’t necessarily the best approach either, but, in the end all you can do is offer alternatives and help to work with the student. If their heart is really set on leaving, they’re going to do so.
The best thing you can then do as studio owner is to remind the dancer and their family that the studio doors are always open and to wish them well. Many times, dancers realize within a few months or the first year that the grass is not always greener and miss their dance classes and friends at the studio only to return. Supporting their decision at the time with understanding and compassion will go a long way. We’ve all been at that age and sometimes we need a break to miss what we truly love and are meant to be doing. Alternatively, if a dancer leaves and doesn’t miss it, then that was probably the best decision for them and for you as well. Nobody should ever want to force someone to be where they don’t want to be.
The joy of dance should be celebrated and your studio should be filled with students who want to be there to learn and move. While you may lose a few along the day, keep your eye on the hundreds of dancers who will go on because of what your establishment taught them. That love for dance starts with you. Whether they do continue or merely have a special place for dance in their heart throughout their lives, it’s because of the lessons you taught them. Food for thought………
See you in the studio,
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