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“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” — Buddha

You may want to read the quote above several times. This post may annoy some readers so let me state right up front that you may not like everything I am writing here and that’s ok! All I ask is that you consider with an open mind and heart with what I am about to tell you and try my challenge below and see if it makes any difference in your mood, view of the world and possibly even the path your life takes over the coming months. I know it has been a game changer for me. I am by nature an optimist and don’t feel right when I go against that vibe. I can also tell you that it is an ongoing process and one that you will have to “Check Yourself” with just about every day.

Why all the anger?

I am amazed at how many people are holding onto anger over anything and everything that they don’t like. Some of the things people are mad about may or may not adversely affect them. Yet they let this ugly nonsense spew out onto their social media post. Now you can try to put the blame on life’s problems on politics, the boss, your business issues or customers, family members or friends but the fact is the only person to blame for any individuals anger is the person that they see in the mirror! Let’s face it, if you are mad or angry and keep it going who does it really hurt? Now I am not suggesting that you shouldn’t get mad about something that bothers you or that you are passionate about. God knows I have had my fair share of those moments and still do! But what I have come to discover over the years is that hard feelings, very negative views and hatred for anyone has NEVER served me well. Furthermore, it has never helped me come up with a good solution to a problem or issue at hand. At some point, you either have to stop taking offense, let it go or do something about it if you are in that position. If not then you will suffer the consequences of letting it eat at you!

I see posts on Facebook where people, some of whom I know well, and I consider to be reasonable, intelligent, caring and good people become consumed by life events, politicians, celebrities, their boss or customers. I even saw a post that someone hoped the President of the United States would die from a heart attack… Really? How can anyone expect good things to come their way if they are pushing out so many negative feelings and energy about another person? If you believe at all in karma or that there is a God or greater force than us, then you must consider that what you send out to the universe will come back to you.

Are you giving attention to what you are projecting in terms of your thoughts, feelings, words and actions? It is a universal law that you reap what you sow. Moreover, you are a reflection of your predominant thoughts, beliefs, words, and actions.

You are what you think about and you receive according to your predominant thoughts.

How about giving out what you most want to get back?

Do you want more love? Give out an abundance of love.

If you send out hate and ill will to someone you are only sending it right back to yourself if you believe in this philosophy. Like attracts like.

What you send out you get back!

Now Hear This…

You can blame your anger, hate or misery on anyone or anything. But the truth is, your anger is created by you, and ONLY YOU! If you don’t agree with that then you can continue to let the forces outside of your control continue to control YOU!  You can continue to be angry about things and people you have no control over and see how that works out for you. Let's be honest, world issues and problems are always going to be there. Most of the time, thank God, much of what we worry, stress about and get upset over never happen. Feeling that way, I have found doesn’t impact or change the outcome. It only makes me feel worse and turns things that aren’t really all that important into to the biggest issues the world has ever seen! If something is out of your control let it go. Why stress and feel hate about things you cannot change. To do anything else is a colossal waste of your time and energy!

Now I understand we all have strong feelings and passion for certain things, people and issues. But because you feel that way doesn’t mean anyone else should or needs to feel the same way. We all have our own “Focus” and our radar is on things that are important to us. I get it that some people are outspoken and feel the right to speak their mind. Hey this is, after all, America. But I would advise you as a dance educator and business owner to proceed with caution and at your own risk especially when it comes to social media. Social media is everywhere. Your posts, comments and feelings when negative or toxic are quite honestly not very becoming. Keep in mind your posts are very possibly read by colleges, business associates, current and prospective customers, family and friends. You may be thinking, “so what, if someone doesn’t like what I write they can unfriend me or it’s too bad for them”! The fact is it can make the person writing these posts seem petty, bitter and small. Even if someone reads and agrees with your post and decides to like or share it you can still be viewed in a negative way. The same holds true when you like or share any negative or angry comments posted by others. You run the risk of offending your circle of people both professionally and personally by making yourself look like an angry, not very kind individual. If you want to be taken seriously as a professional then I believe you have a responsibility to act as one. Keep in mind you are teaching and interacting with children. Most parents that I know do not want their child around an adult that seems to be over the top about anything.

To judge is to be judged!

It appears that there is a rush to judgment. Not just in the media but everywhere. I guess we can just chalk if up to the fast-paced world we live in now. It’s all about the now, immediate and present. I also find it disturbing that people are lableing others as morons, idoiots and the like if people don't agree with them or think like they do. I know that I have to check myself not to do the same with students, parents, colleagues and potential business associates. I recommend that before you write or post something about anyone or any topic, that you give it time to settle. Most of the time it becomes less important and seems very insignificant upon further review. My Mom and Dad would use an old saying when I said something negative about someone and it was ‘If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone, don’t say anything at all!” But I believe that it is more important today than when I was a kid growing up. Think about it. Would it kill us to at least try and live this way? Everyone talks about getting along, loving each other and spreading positivity but then some go and do exactly the opposite. You want to make a difference? Start with yourself! Let’s be the leaders, let’s vow to keep things positive and minimize the negative energy that is so prevalent. We owe it to everyone that surrounds us but most importantly we owe it to ourselves! 


Here's Your Challenge…

Ok so if I you have read this far maybe you will go a bit farther with me. May I suggest you try for 30-days that you only post things that are fun or funny, positive, empowering and loving. At the same time try not to like or share any negative or angry post by others. Now let’s take it a step further and only speak that way. Now I know it won’t be easy but you can do it! Here is what I can tell you. You will have to “Check Yourself” somedays more than others and it will take some work but, in the end, I think you will be surprisingly pleased with the results. After doing this for one month take a self-check test. How do you feel? Have any issues or negative situations you have been dealing with come to a positive resolution? Or have you come up with a great idea to solve a pressing problem? One more thing to try. Get some positive quotes about life and the world and print them out or write them down. Each morning after waking up and every night before you go to sleep read one a few times. I look forward to hearing from you after your thirty days are up. After that time, I think you will find that you have planted the seeds for a new approach to your outlook on the world and how you view it. You may very possibly decide to keep it going and I hope that’s exactly what happens! Hey, there are things that will still make you mad, angry and upset. But the truth is you will be in control and nothing will be able to disturb your peace of mind, happiness and joy

Here’s to your success!



Steve Sirico

Steve Sirico

Steve is co-founder of Dance Teacher Web the number one online resource for dance teachers and studio owners worldwide.He is Co-Director of the very successful D'Valda and Sirico Dance and Music Center in Fairfield, CT for the past thirty plus years. His students have gone on to very successful careers in dance, music and theater. Originally from Norwalk, Ct, Steve excelled in track and football. He attended the University of Tennessee at Martin on a sports scholarship. Deciding to switch and make his career in the world of dance, he studied initially with Mikki Williams and then in New York with Charles Kelley and Frank Hatchett. He has appeared in a number of theatre productions such as Damn Yankees, Guys and Dolls and Mame in New York and around the country and in industrials and television shows. He was contracted to appear as the lead dancer in the Valerie Peters Special a television show filmed in Tampa, Florida. After meeting Angela DValda during the filming they formed the Adagio act of DValda & Sirico appearing in theatres, clubs and on television shows such as David Letterman, Star Search and the Jerry Lewis Telethon. In 1982 they were contracted to Europe and appeared in a variety of shows in Spain, Portugal, Sweden, Finland, Switzerland and Italy before going to London, England where they appeared as Guest Artists for Wayne Sleep (formerly of the Royal Ballet) in his show Dash at the Dominium Theatre. Author of his Jazz Dance syllabus and co-author of a Partner syllabus both of which are used for teacher training by Dance Educators of America, He has also co-authored two books one for dance teachers and one for studio owners in the "It's Your Turn" Book series. He is available for master classes, private business consulting and teacher training development

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